5 Things You Should Never Do After a Breakup
Going through a break-up could be tough. You think your world is going to end. You think you are going to spend the rest of your life with someone and then suddenly it’s over, in a quick second. Don’t you just hate when feelings get involved? Take it from me, I experienced it for the first-time summer of 2016. It really felt like my heart was about to fall right out of my ass. I cried for weeks, nonstop. I was even more hurt because it was the good guy that let me go. Unfortunately, it’s some guilt that I still hold on too. At the end of the day, I was more disappointed on how I handle the breakup. Some people handle breakups differently. Some go slash tires, while others sit in the bed all day long and watch re-runs of Sex and the City. I can help you not be either girl. Listed below are some tips on what to do following a post break up. This might come in handy one day.
Leave the cookie in the jar!
The first thing some girls tend to do is hop on the next boy. I get it. You want to get over your ex, but you really don’t know how. Don’t replace him with some random that you met in the club the night before or the guy who slid in your DM’s after you change your Facebook relationship status to single. You’re going to end up more hurt. You’re going to try and find characteristics in other men that your ex once had. Don’t move too fast. Be patient because you will end up regretting decisions that you made, all because you were looking to love someone or someone to love with you.
Refrain from lurking
Stalking your ex’s social media account is not a good look. You will eventually come across posts or statuses that you will not like. Do too much lurking and accidently like a picture of him and his new girlfriend, and then you’ll end up blockt! If necessary, delete him all from your social media accounts. That also go for their family members too! Social media lurking just isn’t the only one that needs to end. Please don’t go to their place of work, home, or any of their hang out spots. That’s totally off limits and really, creepy. If you both don’t have ties to one another, it’s best you two go your separate ways.
Leave your friends and family out of our business
You tell your girlfriends everything. The topic of discussion at brunch is always about relationships. When a breakup happens the first people, you run too is your girls. That’s not always good. Some details of the relationship should be left private and kept between you and your significant other. Trash talking your ex to your friends is a no-no, especially if you two plan to get back together. If he was the one to make the call on the breakup or vice versa, don’t ever be bitter. Boss up and be the mature one in the situation. If your friends now know all the dirt that happened, they will grow resentment towards him and eventually not like him anymore. Not saying not to trust your girls, but you don’t know which girlfriend might’ve been plotting on your man in the first place! For all my girls who have tight relationships with their parents, this goes for you too. You do not want to hear, “momma told you so.” Even though much of the time they were probably right.
He doesn’t want you, girl!
It’s not easy to just walk away from a relationship with someone you have a history with. I know that’s the hardest part but also the best part. Walking away from an ex is easier said than done. So, with please stop having sex with your ex! That’s the number one rule to a post-breakup. Your emotions can not handle it. I don’t care how good his eggplant is boo, it’s not worth the pain. Trust me! You’re going to become vulnerable to him. He will soon take advantage of your vulnerability. Sex will not keep a man if he doesn’t want to stay. It’s best to CTRL+ALT+DEL that ass!
Don’t get lost in the sauce
After it’s all said and done, stay true to who you are. Don’t lose yourself trying not lose someone. If it’s meant to, be it will be. I know that’s a cliché, but it’s true. Know your worth and purpose. If anything, a breakup should make you a better person. I know that sounds crazy. You stop focusing on the negative and on the positive. Stay focused on what you want in life. Don’t let this be a distraction and lose what you worked for.
I’m glad to share these do’s and don’ts with you all. I have been there and done that, and now it’s just a learning experience. I found my worth. Hopefully, you can learn from my experience and share with your girlfriends that’s going through the same thing.
If you’re going through it, just know it’s called “going through it.” You’re not gonna get stuck there, you’re not gonna die. You’re gonna survive. -Tina Knowles